It astounds me that so many people do not know the true meaning of the phrase “hotwife”. I often get asked about the site with people having the misconception that hotwifeblog is a just a ‘readers wives’ style of site - an exhibition of nude wives and their sex lives. Even folk in the adult industry struggle with the concept. I get asked to post pics of wives only to find out they are conventional monogamous living wives who only have sex with their husbands. It seems they think a hot wife is just a sexy wife…
So to help educate the masses I have posted a definition on the right hand column of the blog in red and for todays post I wanted to draw your attention this interesting blog article I recently found about a man who is seriously fantasizing about being in the lifestyle and like a lot of you readers is very knowledgeable and turned on with the thought of their partner getting involved in hotwifery.
What is a Hotwife?
I may not be the most appropriate person to respond to this type of question, as my wife is not one (although she is quite Hot, and she is definitely my Wife, but this definition has nothing to do w/looks).
There are varying degrees to which couples participate in the “hotwife lifestyle”, and I’ll try to describe a few for you, but for simplicity purposes, it’s basically a situation where the wife of a couple is allowed, with full knowledge by the husband, to date and have sex with other men. The way I’ve seen it described, the term Hotwife is reserved for instances where the husband never engages in anything with another woman, which I guess crosses the line into swinging.
Now, first, I’ll tell you some of the different ways that folks do this (all find-able on the internet). Then, I can tell you what my interest level is. There are situations where the wife of a couple goes out, either alone or with a girlfriend or two, but not with hubby, to a bar, a club, or something like that, and allows herself to get picked up, wearing her ring proudly, and will either engage in activities there, or go home with the guy(s). Some will allow themselves to be driven home, take the man into their home, and have the hubby either be there to watch, or sometimes, hide and watch or listen. It varies on whether the woman tells the guy about the arrangement or not.
There are situations where the wife and hubby go out and hang out, but she will still allow herself to be picked up to dance with and for drinks. It’s then that she will express to the man the arrangement and that her hubby is there and he will follow them either back to their home, or to the new guy’s place.
There is also the arrangement where the wife will get herself close to one or two “boyfriends” and may go out on a date with them at different times, and is allowed to have sex with them, sometimes alone, sometimes with hubby present. It all depends on their agreement. There’s hotwives who will go out with hubby and only give handjobs, blowjobs, only do anal. There’s situations where hubby participates in the activities, sometimes in a bisexual fashion and sometimes, where they are both just focused on the wife. There’s a whole range of things with the “hotwife” idea. I’ve seen it where, as the indicator of her availability, the hotwife will sport an ankle bracelet on her right ankle. Now, the number of women and young girls who wear anklets kind of takes this away as being THE indicator, but it’s fun to imagine….at least for me.
I bought my wife an ankle bracelet, and she knew what I was thinking. She wears it, but at this point, it means little more than looking sexy on her ankle. It’s quite sexy look to have you wife in a skirt or dress, high heels and a shiny anklet dangling there….gorgeous.
Now, my interest…..I like the idea of us getting to know one, maybe two guys that she can have a good friendship with benefits with. We have a friend who has been close with us for a while. I know he’s attracted to her, and she jokes from time to time about him being her boyfriend. I could see going out, the 3 of us, or meeting a bigger group of friends, and since he drinks as well as my wife, I’d be the designated driver and would drive all 3 of us wherever we went. We go, hang out, have a good time. She can flirt and play around and dance with both of us. I know that with alcohol comes lowered inhibitions. You just never know where it could lead. He’s a good enough friend that I trust him where if I’m out of town, or if she’s got her night out to hang out with him. It would turn me on so much if she told me one day that while hanging out with him, she ended up kissing him and kind of fooling around….not because she’s falling for him necessarily, but more because she was horny and knew I’d be okay with it and thought “what the heck?” I’d almost cum without being touched at the thought of her telling me she gave him a hand job or blow job.
I even (for those who have read my blog in the past, this is no surprise) have fantasized about a 3-some for us where wife and I both go down on him and give him a double blow job.
So, I’m not down with her picking up random guys and just being a total slut for any guy with a libido, but I wouldn’t be opposed to her going out on her girls night, or when we’re together and dancing with someone, meeting someone new and then telling me later “Man, if I was single, that might have been a one-nighter” or something crazy like that, or “boy am I glad I have you to come home to, because so-and-so had me a little worked up tonight.”
I’m all for the release of the inner-slut, and if she tells me she wants a 3-some, we make it happen. If she tells me she wants someone, that we figure out if we’re both okay with it, and see what happens. But all in all, it’s stuff that we both agree to. Something we both are comfortable with. Something about eachother that we can talk about, accept, and make work what we can make work. All the while, knowing that we love eachother and want to see the other one pleasured and pleased. This doesn’t touch on all the little sexual quirks about me and my fantasies of stuff, but at least it touches on the hotwife stuff. I’ve had a lot of bi-sexual thoughts lately, and have thought about a post about some of that stuff, but don’t know if I am brave enough for that yet…especially knowing my wife will probably read it.
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