“How can you let another man fuck your wife and loved one?” - I used to feel that way too when I first got into the lifestyle. The first time I screwed another mans wife was bareback while he watched. The whole time I was thinking “how can he be ok with this?”
The three of us left the motel together. I waved at them as we got into our cars. We were going in the same direction and I was right behind them for a long time at a stop light. She was sitting close to him with her head on his shoulders. All I could think about was, that, at this very moment “my sperm is swimming around in her womb and would be for days to come.” My cock became hard again. I knew he had to be thinking the same thing and I suspected his dick was rock hard at that very moment too. (For those of you who are into bareback sex, you know what I mean.)
Then the question of how he could be ok with another man screwing his wife hit me. It all had to do with intimacy and trust. Let me explain
Intimacy - Sex is the most intimate act we humans can experience. While this may be hard for non lifestylers to understand, there is an indescribable degree of intimacy in watching your partner “fucking” someone else. I use the term “fucking” purposely, because that is what is going on. Pure, animalistic pleasure seeking fun. You love someone, you naturally want to see them enjoy themselves. Lets face it, nothing is more fun then sex. I believe it is narrow minded to think that ones partner is the only source of sexual pleasure that he or she could ever experience in a lifetime. Some may say that they don’t want their partner to feel sexual pleasure from anybody but them. That sounds selfish to me. Believe me, a new and vast area of intimacy is achieved when jealously and selfishness are tossed out the window and a partner is trusted to “fuck around” and enjoy him or herself. When you are just watching the action you can feel yourself connecting with your partner in a way you never thought possible. Although there are three of you in the room, it is something the two of you are really doing together. I know this may be hard to comprehend for some. Even if the “fucking” takes place with the observing partner out of the room, it is still very intimate even spiritual and can further deepen the bond of trust between a couple.
Trust - Lets face it, we should be constantly learning as we go though life. Learning about the world outside and more importantly about ourselves. Through experiencing sex with others we can learn a great deal more about what makes us tick. For example: How would you know you don’t like peanut butter if you never tried it? How would you know you don’t like a double penetration if you never tried it either? I have never “fucked” two women that were exactly the same between the sheets or otherwise. Each one brought something special to the experience By allowing your partner full access to life’s sexual buffet is both an ultimate act of love and trust.
A few months after I first fucked the woman mentioned above, I ran into the husband in a bar after work. He informed me that despite her religious use of the pill, she was pregnant. They weren’t sure if it was mine or his but that she wanted to keep it. I bought his next drink and asked how he was handing it?
He smiled and said “You are sounding as if this were bad news. Although she and I are a bit surprised, we are very excited. Regardless of whose swimmers did this, my wife and I are even closer. Kind of like climbers who successfully over came hardships to ascend Mt Everest. It might be your fertilizer, but the garden and its bounty are mine”
He invited me over to their place that night. I saw the room they were making for the baby and then fucked her brains out while he watched. We all became good friends and I got together with them several times before and after the birth of the baby until I moved away.
I know, I for one, could never be in a relationship where me or my partner didn’t fuck around. I would miss that level of intimacy between us. Once you’ve had it you never want to go without.
Submitted by: Wads