Been awhile since my girlfriend or I have posted, hope all is well with you and all my reader peers.
I just read a great post from Daniel, about him ‘accepting’ his wife’s infidelity. It spoke to me, because it’s that type of hotwife / husband / self / relationship / sexuality that I’m most interested in, so thought I’d offer a thought or two as well.
Daniel, if your story is true, and it certainly rang more true that the blatantly masturbatory stories that are too easily found, then I have a couple words of advise for you. But of course I know next to nothing about your specific situation, other than what you shared, so this goes to anyone that it might also be of help to.
First off, there is no feeling in the world like fucking your wife or girlfriend after she’s been fucked. So, I know there is a large school of men that are happy with their girls just fucking others and not being able to share in the pleasure, I know that there are a lot of guys with cheating wives that wish they could take part in the after-event, if not the actual event. Yes?
If you want to be a part of it, regardless whether it’s while he’s fucking her or after he’s fucked her, or after you get home or she gets home (etc., you get the idea), you are PERFECTLY set up for it. PERFECTLY !! Why? Because your wife is already fucking others!
So, turn this into an enriching opportunity, a step forward for the both of you. There will be a couple of bumps along the way, but ultimately, you’ll both be rewarded.
Do NOT confront her on her infidelity; it’s her private life to this point, and she hasn’t chosen to share it with you. Just as you haven’t shared this website with her, if you know what I mean. So, it’s cool to have your own private things, marriage/relationships don’t require you have the same DNA and fantasies/realities, and I’m sure we’ll ALL agree to.
Don’t even allude to her cheating; don’t joke about the subject, don’t talk about others that do, don’t hint, don’t pretend to be knowledgeable about it in anyway whatsoever. Just put the whole thing aside. There’s a reason, trust me. It’s HER thing, and she will freak out if you even breath about her thing. So, what you’re going to do instead is create your/her own thing, together.
So, you’re doing the right thing to let her do what she wants to do… She’s going to get bored with it unless it’s cultivated. Just from reading the story you posted, damn, sounds like the guy she’s fucking behind your back is one boring fuck. And that, right there, is pure and simple opportunity for YOU (and her). The guy is a fucking bore. Opportunity for you to turn up the heat and earn her lust.
You’re a man, not a boy. He’s not even worth the fuck, from what I read. So, fuck him and forget about him, and she will soon do the same. I don’t know, maybe she likes the ‘bad boy’ element he represents, but you can be much ‘badder’, or you wouldn’t be here already. I’ve turned all my girlfriend slave/sluts (for the past 20 years) onto in-shape black men, and then they are really appreciative, lol, let them enjoy the fuck, but hey, to each their own.
Here’s what I’d do:
Pick a day (and night) that you know the both of you will be home and together. Leave her a note in the morning where you know she’ll find it when you’re not there, ie: bathroom, kitchen, wherever she does her morning thing, you get the idea. Tell her ‘thank you for marrying me.’ Tell her that you want to do something fun and sexy, the two of you (and keep it that way for now, trust me, just ‘the two of us’). Tell her that you’re taking her to the mall. Set aside $200 on your credit card or cash…. Tell her you want to buy her a sexy dress and a pair of sexy shoes/heels to match (girls love heels!). Something OUT of the ordinary for her AND you. Something ‘young/sassy/sexy’ (maybe she’s feeling her age, lol, after all, those 32 year olds start to worry, lol).
But you lead, at least at first, ok? You leading the parade will help her relax and enjoy it and appreciate you doing it, rather than her feeling like she’s dragging you along ’shopping.’ Plus, dude, the mall is full of pussy to keep your eyes happy when she’s in the dressing room, but DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT even for ONE MOMENT look at any of the other pussy when you’re with your wife. Hold her hand, keep her close, make her feel like supermodel-baby. Damn, assholes screw this up all the time when trying to train a hotwife. When an obviously hot girl is walking down the aisle, use that as an opportunity to bring your girl’s insecurity-gate down, look at her, smile, be happy and thankful she’s with you, and you should be, lol, because she’s obviously a girl that likes to fuck, and fuck others at that, that’s more than half the battle, anyway, i digress.
Go to that store BEBE. Always some hot dresses in there, runs about $110. Tell her to find the sexiest thing she can find, that she likes. Don’t let her wimp out if this is a new experience. Don’t let her go for the boring plain ‘on sale’ rack shit. Tell her, ‘no, baby, sexy, for you, for us.’ If there’s nothing there, no worries, she’ll know a couple other stores to check out, and once she’s believing that you are actually interested, she’ll be excited.
Something sexy, man, encourage her to go as far as she wants to (remember, this is STAGE ONE, your FIRST shopping trip, so err on the side of what she ultimately chooses, she’ll probably play it down the middle, for lots of reasons, I don’t have time to explain it). Then, same deal for the shoes. She’ll already know a bunch of stores, but encourage something high-end, something from one of the department stores, designer pumps/heels, not the discount/pay-for-less shit.
Be with her, offer your thoughts, be supportive and encouraging. Honest, of course, don’t let her wimp out, like I said, but you’ll have to play that by ear, you know her (see, that’s the sort of shit that fantasy-boy doesn’t have to deal with, so you be the man, let him be the boy, and she’ll appreciate it and recognize it) better than anyone else.
After shopping-spree, tell her you want to check out whatever the martini-bar in the area is that evening, that you want to see her in that beautiful dress and shoes, so proud of her, can’t believe your luck. Period. Don’t push it, she’ll sniff out bullshit, because she’s apparently good at spreading it herself and THAT’S why you will NEVER make mention or hint of her infidelity.
At the martini bar now, ok… drinks, and very smoothly point out ‘Hey, baby, that guy is checking you out, great dress, you look so sexy, I’d be checking you out too if I didn’t know you. Then another guy, just a couple, maybe, don’t overdo it. Tell her you’re having fun, say it’s fun being with a woman so sexy and attractive to others, and now ‘I’m lovin’ it, kinda turns me on, baby.’ Let it hang and see what she says/reacts, and whatever it is, don’t overreact or over-correct anything. Leave that line there, that it turns you on. Because SHE WILL BE THINKING ABOUT A LOT ALREADY !!!
If she’s shy, leave it just like that, go home, make sweet and vocal love to your sexy bride (regardless how long you’ve been married, tell her she’s your girlfriend still, ‘feels so great, what a night’).
If she’s half-slut, tell her you’d love to see her flirt, would love to learn more about her ‘that way.’
if she’s slut, invite a guy over for a drink, or ask her if the attention is making her wet, is she is having sexy fun, does she like sharing this experience with you, etc….
If she’s a hotwife, lol, well, we already know she is…..
When you have her home and passionate again, tell her you want to do that night again, proud of her looking so hot and attractive to you and others, and work that pussy gentle while you’re talking to her, orally maybe, ask her if she liked the evening too. Tell her how happy you are that she enjoyed it, that she was turned on. Tell her that you want to know what turns her on, tell her to tell you BUT THAT IT CAN’T INCLUDE YOU (or maybe it can, but point is to give her a platform to share something with you that she hasn’t yet shared, even if it’s mild).
Don’t push anything she doesn’t offer at this point, on this night. Treat everything she says as golden. And now, my friend, you have started a wonderful process. Treat her cheating on you as a great opportunity to share more with her then ever. Honesty is the most difficult policy, that’s my motto.
Longer term, hell, she’ll LOVE that you’ll let her fuck around WITH YOUR PERMISSION and INVOLVEMENT. Think of the load off her shoulders/mind, you’d be doing her a favor. She wants to fuck others; so let her, let her show you what a woman she is all the while being her man. . She’ll share stuff with you that you’d only been coming here for. Maybe you’ll find out something she wanted to ask you for but didn’t have the experience and tools to do so, so she turned to some dumbass kid for a short term validation.
Be her man, not a boy. I’ve started to build a group of people that are interested in these subjects/topics, without the bullshit and kiddies, so drop me a note anytime (free!!). Here’s a pic to make this post somewhat juicy, lol, a girl I’ve been training for 10 years! With her husband’s approval!
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