August 2, 2010
Where the urge comes from
I found out where the cuckold urge in men comes from
Dear Fellow Cuckold Enthusiasts:
It has puzzled me for years where a man’s urge to be cuckolded could come from. From an evolutionary perspective, being cuckolded and forced to invest years in caring for a child that does not carry your genes is a worst case scenario.
Surely a gene for such an urge would have been selected against until it was gone. So I was confused as to why so many of us would have such a strong urge for it. I was also concerned that the implication of wanting to be a cuckold was that somehow you were gay, but I have never thought of myself as gay, or that you were somehow abnormal or even perverse.
I decided to research the phenomenon from an evolutionary psychology perspective, and I think that I have hit pay dirt in some recent research in the journals of this young science, and I wanted to share it with everyone. Hopefully we can now understand where this powerful and puzzling urge is coming from, and realize that we are not gay or abnormal or perverted, but instead that we are the product of (and the winners of) millions of years of human evolution. For if our ancestors did not have these traits, we would not be here.
Below is an excerpt from a key paragraph and below is a link to the article. I would welcome your feedback
“An interesting implication of the notion of male intra-vaginal competition is that male sexual arousal need not always be tightly connected to male sexual preferences. In general, men physiologically respond to sexual situations that match their sexual interests (something that is not quite true in women). But intra-vaginal battles demand men to become aroused to situations that are actually unpleasant for them, for instance the suspicion of their partner’s infidelity. Men, therefore, may become very sexually aroused at the idea of their partner having sex with someone else, even though they would strongly avoid such a situation (see work by Pound, 2002). Of note, partner swapping seems to involve older couples and appears to be a way to reignite flagging sexual passions.”
You can read the full thread and find a link to the article here
By: PDClement
August 4th, 2010 at 1:33 pm
The research points more towards what is called “sperm competition” and is well documented in science. When a male sees another male having intercourse with a female, they become stimulated, regardless of who’s partner it is through modern social-constructs (in this case the mans wife). The reason this exists is because the male’s genes have to compete with other genes and usually, before organized civilizations, multiple men would have sex with a woman nearly guaranteeing pregnancy. In order for genes to thrive, the carrier’s sperm must become very active, especially when faced with other sperm attempting to impregnate the same woman. otherwise the genes stand the chance of not proliferating.
August 5th, 2010 at 1:33 am
Bob,
Thank you for posting this article. I have a bf who has been masturbating to this type of porn. It is something new to me until now. I feel like I am extremely sexually open with him and have tried to suggest new ideas in the bedroom. After this discovery, it upsets me that he will not share his fantasies with me. Might this be brought on by embarrassment? I haven’t brought this up as it seems something he might not want to share. We’ve had intimate discussions where I’ve admitted my own personal fantasies and have attempted to keep lines of intimacy open but have received nothing, especially cuckolding fantasies. Any suggestions?
Thanks! Confused GF
August 24th, 2010 at 3:44 am
Forget the research- we know the facts- if you have the guts to share this fantasy with your wife or girlfriend, your are rewarded with a sexually charged relationship. There is nothing better than having your used wife return home and be rewarded with sloppy seconds.
September 15th, 2010 at 11:41 pm
thers is absolutely nothing wrong with it whatsoever ..!! it is just so cool , my busty blonde bitch of a wife has been having fun..& sex with BBC FOR three years now -whilst i watch ..!! i have found it the most fantastic mindblowing experience ever ..!!! the best thing to ever happen to our marriage BY FAR..XX