As much as I enjoy doing other men’s wives I recognise it’ll never become an accepted way of life. And I hope it remains that way.

Ad hominem attacks aside, though (sorry, spelling and grammar are huge pet peeves for me) your dissertation raises some interesting questions:

If the primary factor causing wives to cheat is the biological need to obtain genetic material, and if the solution to this quandry is to indulge the biological urge, what of the male’s need to ’spread the seed’ so to speak? It’s a logical (and long-held) belief that men are hard-wired to engage in sexual intercourse with as many different females as possible in order to increase the distribution of their genetic material. If we’re going to allow women to disregard (or compartmentalize) emotional bonds in favor of biology, shouldn’t the same standard apply to men?

With regard to matriarchal societies: firstly, I’d like to see where you’re coming up with the notion that matriarchal societies not only exist today, but bestow upon their members a higher quality of life. All the data I’ve located (here’s a link to the wikipedia page, [which cites sources!]: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matriarchy) indicates there have been relatively few matriarchies in history and there are currently none in existence. A matriarchy would seem to me to be an arrangement not likely to linger due to the physical superiority (not meant in a condescending fashion, mind you) of males. A society dominated by females would likely find its paradigm inverted over time when males overpowered the females.

Finally, I see that you’ve introduced the cuckold lifestyle to many couples in a bid to save struggling marriages. While I assume you’re working in your clients’ best interest, are you at all concerned that you might be pushing a relatively unique perspective upon people who might otherwise not consider it? I can easily envision a scenario wherein a man, desperate to save his marriage (and the home, kids and life it encompasses) turns to a trusted authority (you, in this case) and, against his internal objections, ends up subjugating himself and his emotional well-being to his wife’s rampant sexual desires. Just playing devil’s advocate here…

Also, what’s wrong with enjoying sports or spending time with male friends?! These are normal male pastimes that add balance to a man’s life and prevent his becoming suffocatingly attached to the woman in his life. You talk about men having hobbies as though it were a bad thing, but I’m guessing the women you counsel are allowed to have their own pursuits (aside from other guys’ junk).

In any case, this last bit mercifully brings me to my conclusion: I’m afraid your piece smacks of an undercurrent of misandry to me. The long and short of the entire work can be summed up thusly: ‘The best and most effective marriage/relationship is one in which the female’s every desire is satisfied on both an emotional and physical level, while the male’s desires are subjugated, or disregarded entirely.’ If a couple wants to seek other sexual fulfillment for the female while not doing likewise for the male, that’s their business, but in my view the male needs to be an equal party to the proceedings and his needs/concerns/feelings should be considered equal to his lover’s.

On one hand, watching your wife have sex with another man is the ultimate 3-D porno! You get to watch (and even participate) in a porno with your wife as the star!

I know that some men prefer stronger women and the cuckolding transforms into dominatrix behaviors as well.

In the end, only an extremely confident couple can introduce third parties into the bedroom. They may be a minority, but should never be shunned as abnormal. They most likely are the most confident of all of us.