Comments on: Losing Interest in Husband http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/ Welcome to hotwifeblog.com a blog community about hot wives, swingers, affairs and cuckold husbands. THIS WEBLOG IS FOR ADULT 18+ DISCUSSION ONLY. Tue, 22 May 2012 04:26:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5 by: Josh http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-163116 Wed, 29 Oct 2008 12:17:11 -0400 http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-163116 I think you need to tell hubby very seriously that you're feeling this way, and unless the cuck'ing stops (god forbid) then you may end up never being comfortable with him again. I assume he's a grown man, he can then make a decision on what he wants. If he still wants you to cuck, then you're not evil or anything of the sort. If you have to stop, you might regain what you've lost. From the sounds of things, you're past your hubby anyway. If i were in your position, i'd keep things the way they were?! I think you need to tell hubby very seriously that you’re feeling this way, and unless the cuck’ing stops (god forbid) then you may end up never being comfortable with him again.

I assume he’s a grown man, he can then make a decision on what he wants. If he still wants you to cuck, then you’re not evil or anything of the sort. If you have to stop, you might regain what you’ve lost.

From the sounds of things, you’re past your hubby anyway.

If i were in your position, i’d keep things the way they were?!

]]> by: Drew http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-163216 Wed, 29 Oct 2008 16:55:40 -0400 http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-163216 It's refreshing to read a post that doesn't glamorize this lifestyle. Sure it's fun to read posts of wives doing complete strangers while on vacation with their husbands watching. But I wonder how much of this is fantasy -vs- reality? For me and my wife it took over a year before we actually turned fantasy into reality. And despite our many wild adventures, not all of them turned out well. It's my opinion that this "lifestyle" should be about couples who want to explore and enjoy their sexual fantasies TOGETHER and as a couple. Personally I would find little satisifaction in knowing my wife was fucking another man while having little or no interest in fucking me too. And if I were you I would take a serious step back and ask yourself if all this is really what you want. If it's something your husband spent a year talking you into and now you're questioning it, my guess is that this probably won't end well for you and your husband if allowed to continue down it's current path. It’s refreshing to read a post that doesn’t glamorize this lifestyle. Sure it’s fun to read posts of wives doing complete strangers while on vacation with their husbands watching. But I wonder how much of this is fantasy -vs- reality? For me and my wife it took over a year before we actually turned fantasy into reality. And despite our many wild adventures, not all of them turned out well. It’s my opinion that this “lifestyle” should be about couples who want to explore and enjoy their sexual fantasies TOGETHER and as a couple. Personally I would find little satisifaction in knowing my wife was fucking another man while having little or no interest in fucking me too. And if I were you I would take a serious step back and ask yourself if all this is really what you want. If it’s something your husband spent a year talking you into and now you’re questioning it, my guess is that this probably won’t end well for you and your husband if allowed to continue down it’s current path.

]]> by: Bruce Campbell http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-163333 Wed, 29 Oct 2008 22:30:05 -0400 http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-163333 I have been where you are. You can not unring a bell, nor unknow what you know, or unfeel what you feel. You can talk about it and, hopefully, forget what you feel at least let it exist only as a horny memory. Best of luck - you have discovered the dark side of sexual freedom. I have been where you are. You can not unring a bell, nor unknow what you know, or unfeel what you feel. You can talk about it and, hopefully, forget what you feel at least let it exist only as a horny memory. Best of luck - you have discovered the dark side of sexual freedom.

]]> by: William http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-163371 Wed, 29 Oct 2008 23:58:16 -0400 http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-163371 I think you need to seriously reevaluate the nature of this relationship. Any power-exchange based sexual relationship needs to be safe, sane, and consensual to be successful. It does not sound exactly consensual in this case. Just because you're playing the dominant partner doesn't mean you consent to it. At the very least, lines of communication need to be strictly and perpetually open between you and your husband to make it work. I think you need to seriously reevaluate the nature of this relationship. Any power-exchange based sexual relationship needs to be safe, sane, and consensual to be successful. It does not sound exactly consensual in this case.

Just because you’re playing the dominant partner doesn’t mean you consent to it.

At the very least, lines of communication need to be strictly and perpetually open between you and your husband to make it work.

]]> by: Cory http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-163701 Thu, 30 Oct 2008 14:46:42 -0400 http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-163701 I am too in a similar situation. Thank you for letting me know that what I feel is not unusual. I am too in a similar situation. Thank you for letting me know that what I feel is not unusual.

]]> by: sx782 http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-170332 Mon, 10 Nov 2008 02:35:26 -0500 http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-170332 Seems to me, that this is only a natural evolution to the cuckold lifestyle. Your husband has basically forced you to see him as "less than a man" to you. Naturally your natural attraction to a man is no longer present with him. Don't get me wrong, I love the hotwife thing and i've shared many a girlfriend with other men, but I draw the line at sharing. I will not allow humiliation, I pitty the man who tries it. Why? Because i may like to share but I am a man and my woman as well as any guy she plays with will know it. I restrict our playing to something we do together. She can be a nasty slut for an evening and enjoy the attentions of more than one man but with the stipulation that I am present, I agree to the selection and I am respected by andy and all parties. Cuckolding by nature is a kink whereby a man gets off on being belittled and shamed. If you spend your time shaming and belittling your man even with his blessing and approval, it's only a matter of time before you begin to believe and accept that he is in fact "Less than a man." Hotwifing is one thing but cuckolding goes to a different level and crosses different psychological boundaries, which in my opinion are very hard to return from. Sorry to hear that things have turned this way for you. I wish you and your hubby luck with this. Seems to me, that this is only a natural evolution to the cuckold lifestyle. Your husband has basically forced you to see him as “less than a man” to you. Naturally your natural attraction to a man is no longer present with him.
Don’t get me wrong, I love the hotwife thing and i’ve shared many a girlfriend with other men, but I draw the line at sharing. I will not allow humiliation, I pitty the man who tries it. Why? Because i may like to share but I am a man and my woman as well as any guy she plays with will know it.
I restrict our playing to something we do together. She can be a nasty slut for an evening and enjoy the attentions of more than one man but with the stipulation that I am present, I agree to the selection and I am respected by andy and all parties.

Cuckolding by nature is a kink whereby a man gets off on being belittled and shamed. If you spend your time shaming and belittling your man even with his blessing and approval, it’s only a matter of time before you begin to believe and accept that he is in fact “Less than a man.”
Hotwifing is one thing but cuckolding goes to a different level and crosses different psychological boundaries, which in my opinion are very hard to return from.
Sorry to hear that things have turned this way for you. I wish you and your hubby luck with this.

]]> by: JP http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-170936 Mon, 10 Nov 2008 22:34:03 -0500 http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-170936 Maybe you're husband is gay.He probally isn't even interested in sex anymore. If you don't have any physical connection,despite what those in this lifestyle state,the marriage will be lacking. Its not your fault for this as he insisted on it but for you to go back to how things were would be far-fetched. A husband should be your best friend but not like a brother.Being in love has to do with being physically intimate also.Which is more important,your marriage or sex life. Its unfortunate you can't have both with your marriage partner.Do you wanna divorce or stick it out? Thats the question and what do you want to do about it! Maybe you’re husband is gay.He probally isn’t even interested in sex anymore. If you don’t have any physical connection,despite what those in this lifestyle state,the marriage will be lacking. Its not your fault for this as he insisted on it but for you to go back to how things were would be far-fetched. A husband should be your best friend but not like a brother.Being in love has to do with being physically intimate also.Which is more important,your marriage or sex life. Its unfortunate you can’t have both with your marriage partner.Do you wanna divorce or stick it out? Thats the question and what do you want to do about it!

]]> by: Jim Gordon http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-179817 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 15:25:38 -0500 http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2008/10/28/losing-interest-in-husband/#comment-179817 Yea i agree with sx782. Theres no way u can have a healthy sexual relationship with your husband whilst having an emotional sexual relationship with a lover. Be a good Hotwife and keep hubby in chasity , its what he wants xx Good luck in your decision xxx Yea i agree with sx782. Theres no way u can have a healthy sexual relationship with your husband whilst having an emotional sexual relationship with a lover.
Be a good Hotwife and keep hubby in chasity , its what he wants xx Good luck in your decision xxx

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