Comments on: Reality vs Fantasy

by: Jack

Mon, 22 Oct 2007 03:58:55 -0400

Well, this was a real awakening, my hotwife(34g(all real)28 39 53 year old wife…could, I say could be the hottest thing I ever knew, I’d love to watch her, but, I think she could get messed up cause alot of men have tried too many times already, but could she just do it for fun and excite me?

I’m not sure I could handle it…even thought though that thought of watching her…is mind-blowing.

by: ken

Mon, 22 Oct 2007 06:47:04 -0400

I don’t get it. If you have such a problem with it emotionally, why did you agree? You are allowed to change your position on it and let her know. Honestly, it doesn’t sound like she has much respect for you. Quite honestly, it’s not that you lost control, you just feel so low of yourself that you let it continue. If it were me, I’d say stop, period. And if anything where to happen, even a little thing, I’d just kill the relationship. Otherwise, accept it as a failed experiment and rebuild your relationship.

The way it stands, seems like your just punishing yourself. She’s getting more of what she wants - a stable husband and sex from other men. You don’t get anything. I’m sorry, that just sucks. Why are you accepting this?

by: tom

Mon, 22 Oct 2007 08:04:08 -0400

That’s a really good article. Hope things work out for you both.

by: alex

Mon, 22 Oct 2007 15:51:37 -0400

My wife told all of her friends which caused lots of problems… some of them shunned her, some slept with her (boys and girls). But overall it was too much and caused a great strain. It also started to feel like work for her and that’s a far different thing than pleasure. We separated and have now reconciled, though in reconciling we’ve decided to tell all the people who *knew* that we mutually decided to end it, but in reality, we’re lying to them and continuing in the same lifestyle and being much more careful about whom we involve or tell. Are we doomed? Possibly. And possibly not. Kind of like marriage in general these days… Good luck out there. Great post… very thoughtful.

by: Daisy Rock

Tue, 23 Oct 2007 02:05:24 -0400

Sounds like you have both had a bit of a hard time. I believe that if you have a hotwife it has to be a game that you play together. I know that I could certainly not be a hotwife unless my man was totally into it. Our fantasy that we make into reality, only totally does it for me when it turns him on. I would not enjoy having sex with any man, out of my relationship with my husband, if it was to affect any part of our love for each other. He and our relationship is the most important thing to me, it is our game, and our fun that is important. I would suggest if any one is thinking of taking the fantasy into reality, just have a little dabble first, like watch your wife having sex with another man maybe at a swingers party where you will only have to mix with other couples who are into the same thing. You could source a guy from a swinging site there are plenty of single guys that love this kind of sex, you can experiment there. I think having a relationship with another man straight away is a big no go area, if you have never even tried the basics, surely this was a sexual fantasy first, not a relationship fantasy. You can also avoid the embarrassment of telling your normal friends, this lifestyle is not for everyone, and there will be many couples that would frown upon it, keep it to yourself, no one has to know, anyway its more exciting having a secret double debauched lifestyle, its fun and erotic so keep it that way, and have your game together. I wish you both the best of luck.

by: Marchand

Sun, 28 Oct 2007 22:26:23 -0400

Very good reflextion, good thougful. Dou you remenber : “bad compagny is the ruin of a good caractere.” I hope is better for you is the future if you take the good decision. And the sun have nice and warm sight for you. Good luck