September 25, 2007
Conclusion. And Finally…
Turning a Wife Into A Hotwife
Part VIII - “Conclusion - And Finally…”
It needs to be noted that there is a niche, renegade definition of hotwife used on some x-rated sites that puts her under the control of a husband whose goal is to turn her into a whore-wife. He might have her dress in revealing clothes and have her go to a party, or to the houses or apartments of men he knows, with the understanding that she is to make herself available for sex. No money is involved, and the only motivation seems to be that she demonstrates that she is willing to provide these men with sex. Some wives in this case may be acting out a prostitute fantasy with the husband as pimp. Plus, some women want to experience sex with different men without the complications of setting things in motion themselves. And, finally, then some of these women may be acting out a psychological need to experience submission. In most cases, however, these husbands simply want to demonstrate some sort of ultimate control over their wives by getting them to a point of readily agreeing to sex with men they choose. In some cases the situation is reversed with the cuckold husband getting off on his wife humiliating him by flaunting her numerous affairs in front of him, and even going so far as to force him to watch one of more men have sex with her while she berates her husband’s sexual abilities.
Although such “needs” are hard to understand, they exist and need to be recognized as part of the full scope of human needs and behaviors. Even though some husbands and wives might accept these renegade definitions, the majority of people who move in the hotwife direction feel that these views are associated with unhealthy dominant-submissive relationships that will probably at some point self-destruct. In contrast to the above, the definitions used for the terms in this article can be found here.
This article is in response to letters we’ve received about hotwives and swinging. The bugaboo in outside sexual relationships is emotional involvement. When this enters the picture with anyone but your committed partner, major problems develop. A new person can represent an exciting change over an existing relationship, but what is often not realized is that the excitement of this new relationship almost always fades.
It has been shown that when a person marries the “other person,” that marriage generally fails.
Next week we’ll start to publish “Becoming A Hotwife” - it documents some of the personal problems (and successes) experienced by one couple, and adds important things that need to be considered.
By: Dr. Cherry Lee
Read Part I - How can I turn my wife into a hotwife?
Read Part II - Getting Things Started
Read Part III - Other Approaches
Read Part IV - First Time With Another Man
Read Part V - Navigating Some Dangerous Waters
Read Part VI - Emotional Involvement
