August 27, 2007
Emotional Involvement
Turning a Wife Into A Hotwife
Part VI - “Confronting the Issue of Emotional Involvement”
Sex without love or at least strong emotional involvement is new for many, if not most women, and this issue needs to be brought to the front and center of discussions. Once the hotwife door is opened, it should be agreed that if she suspects emotional involvement on the part of her sexual partner or herself, she will break off the liaison. Not to do so almost always results in major problems all the way around. In short, avoid this kind of trouble!
By regularly seeing just one man, emotional involvement can easily result. For this reason most cuckold husbands prefer that their wives make themselves available to more than one man. Sex with one man outside the marriage constitutes an “affair,” which can be a threat to a marriage; regularly enjoying and being open to safe sex with different men constitutes a “hotwife.”
By: Dr. Cherry Lee
Read Part I - How can I turn my wife into a hotwife?
Read Part II - Getting Things Started
Read Part III - Other Approaches
Read Part IV - First Time With Another Man
Read Part V - Navigating Some Dangerous Waters
Next Week: How A Husband Copes
The smell of a bedroom after she’s been with a lover is something you’ll never forget
August 29th, 2007 at 4:49 am
My wife is a hot wife and has had quite a lot of sex partners. Some of her fucking was done with swap partners or a MMF/MFM. Some was her and a guy casual sex, maybe 2 or 3 times and move on to the next guy. Some of her sex came from longer term affairs. I used to encourage her to take lovers and have affairs. I really enjoyed her having constant sex in these affairs.
There are DANGERS with a wife in an affair. It was not so much my wife becoming too attached to these other men, it was the men becoming too attached to her. She had 4 long term affairs with my permission. They lasted 6 months to 2 years each. We learned very quickly after the first time that these men could not be from our inner circle of close friends. Three of these men ended up on the outs with thier wives. One wife was really pissed when she found out that my wife had a child from her husband. I was ok with it but she took every thing he had and thru him out.
The other problem that comes up when a hotwife is in a long term affair is that the Hotwife is a Hotwife. Lets face it, she is going to need fucking from men other than myself and her current lover. Her lover is not going to understand our hotwives needing a third man filling her pussy with more cum or the fact that we encourage them to be a Hotwife.
September 23rd, 2007 at 12:20 am
My wife has been a hotwife for about twenty years. We started as a step to swinging and it worked, we tried swinging and enjoyed it but to be honest I got to enjoy watching my wife more than playing with most other women.
When we started B would not kiss a lover or even think of the person as “lover” but just as someone she played with or fucked or whatever. However one thing that happened the first time might have been a clue to our future. B was nursing, it was about six months after our first child, so or course she was not on the pill or any other birth control. Once in while we would use rubbers but for the most part we went bare. However for Henry, her first lover, we had rubbers by the bed and she said she wanted to use them. To make a long story short, we were in the bedroom, we were all naked and Henry was getting between my wife’s legs. I looked at her with one of those hard looks, she looked at me, put her hand on Henry’s cock and guided him into her…bare. Henry enjoyed her bare and no birth control until after B quit nursing our second child. I asked why she didn’t use the rubbers and she said that she was turned on, kind of swept up in the moment and she said she really didn’t like rubbers since she enjoyed the skin to skin feelings as well as she loved feeling me or a lover actually coming in her.
After about a year of seeing Henry I asked my wife how she felt about kissing, telling her that she seemed to enjoy it a lot and did she miss it with Henry? She did so we talked about it and they started kissing. So, bare back and kissing and she became close friends with Henry, talking on the phone and so on.
At one point I asked her how she felt about Henry, it seemed to me, so I told her, that she loved Henry in a certain way, not like married but not quite affair, but lovers/friends maybe. After thinking about she agreed that she did love Henry and as it went Henry loved her. However they both knew it would not work as a marriage or to leave each other’s spouse’s. However I feel the affection, the strong affection the felt for each other made the sex hotter, at times they were making love, not just fucking.
She has dumped a few lovers that got too close or too needy. She has played cheating wife and has used the “L” word with some lovers. But she tends to like more than one lover at a time. Yes, she enjoys two or more men at the same time but she also enjoys having relationships with three or four men at the same time. She has remained friends with her first lover and has had some other long term lovers but we have never felt that it caused our marriage much stress. The cheating wife game did make me feel like a cuckold, making me more interested in feeling that again (he and one or two other times with other men made me feel like a cuckold) but after all was said, he was not a threat to us.
But now she wants a type of relationship, she calls her friends “lovers” and feels her ideal would be to be a lover/friend/girlfriend/mistress to her lovers. Considering she enjoys bareback and overnights and dating without me as well as with me, it works for us for her to have lovers that are also “friends” to her and to us.