I have for years wanted my wife to cuckold me, and have let her know. She tested the sincerity of my desire by waking me in the middle of the night, one night many years ago and telling me she was sorry for thinking about having sex with a dr she worked with.

I never got so turned on so quickly in all my life, at 2am! I didn’t know what to say, except ‘thank you’. I knew it was a set up when she got upset when I offered to make whatever time she wanted by taking the kids somewhere so she could enjoy the safety of our marriage bed.

There are some great suggestions here for moving things forward and I look forward to putting some of them to action. One thing you say though, that I don’t think applies so much to me is for her to avoid making comparisons. For me, that’s part of the thrill. I want her not only have sex with other men, but to develop a preference for other men. I want her to make those ‘crass’, degrading comparisons, with full expression of those preferences, and WHY she likes them so much.

I know your advice is to serve ‘average’ norms, and help keep people from ruining their marriage. For me, the mold doesn’t quite fit, but your advice is golden.