Turning a Wife Into A Hotwife
Part II - “Getting Things Started”
In the beginning, the exploratory hotwife discussions may take a general, impersonal form. Many of the advantages for women are outlined in the previous chapter, and these can be subtly brought out. It’s essential to approach all this from her viewpoint. Most wives know of women - both married and unmarried - who enjoy sexual variety, and it will help to find out her attitude about this. Let her talk about it in detail, and remember the things she brings out. Eventually, a wife will realize that her husband is really in favor of giving her sexual freedom. At this point she will typically have suspicions about why he wants to move in this direction. Immediately coming to mind will be the possibility that he wants to have an affair, or even that he is trying to get her interested in other men so he can get out of the marriage. These things should not be the case, and they should be addressed openly and honestly, and total assurances given. This may be the biggest obstacle and it may take much in the way of persistent, loving assurance. He should clearly communicate the attitude of, “I love you,” but our marriage doesn’t mean that you must be denied sexual experiences with other men, the kind that many other women are enjoying.
Most women have had men flirt with them or “hit” on them. He should let her know that this does not threaten him. The husband may know of a particular man that “interests” her. He might tease her about it and make it clear that it’s okay. At the same time, the dangers of going in the hotwife direction should be openly addressed, and there are many: She could fall in love with someone else. What will be the effect be of people finding out? And then there is the risk of STD (sexually-transmitted disease).
Even if she initially has no intention of moving in the hotwife direction, by discussing each of these things in a general way, it will clear the way for the possibility - a possibility that will stick with her and that she will probably think about. (Remember, according to statistics, the majority of urban working women have had or are having an affair, so she’s probably very familiar with the issue.) Once she is convinced that she has this freedom, she will feel less sexually confined and will start thinking about things differently. This difference may become evident to other men who will see her as being more relaxed and less inhibited around them. The husband might also suggest that she get used to wearing more revealing clothes, the kind that sends a message to men.
She may want to wear - or the husband may want her to wear - an ankle bracelet on her right leg, which some claim signals those “in the know” that she’s a hotwife. Although ankle bracelets are worn by many women who don’t know their association with “hotwives,” men sometimes buy their wives ankle bracelets to signal that (1) with his permission she has had sex or is having sex outside of marriage, (2) he is okay with men approaching her to see if she’s interested, and (3) she’s open to sexual affairs.
Needless to say, she needs to be on some type of full-time birth control, such as the pill (assuming she isn’t already), and she needs to always have condoms in her purse. Among other things, they serve as a reminder that if an opportunity arises, she can take advantage of it. Even more important, condoms help insure that she won’t contract a STD.
The husband may help things along by dropping hints to men about how she loves sex, and that she’s more open-minded about it than she seems. He might even let it be known that he wouldn’t mind if she had an affair. All of these things may feed upon themselves until men attempt to meet her privately to establish the beginning of a sexual relationship.
Because of the possibility of becoming emotionally involved with one sexual partner, once she gets started, she should regularly have sex with more than one man. Thus, the emphasis should shift from emotional involvement before sex to sexual enjoyment and experience. Many women simply look for men who can regularly get them to climax.
By: Dr. Cherry Lee
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