April 9, 2007
Emma Interviewed
I’m very excited to bring you this interview today with Emma and to have a peep inside her life. Emma is a gorgeous cuckoldress living the lifestyle and having lots of fun with her husband Scott. It’s been a long time that I’ve had the pleasure of interviewing someone so intelligent and articulate as well as being so confident about her sexuality.
Thanks for being a part of hotwife blog Emma, please keep in touch with your future pics and stories.
hotwifeblog: Hi Emma, thanks so much for taking the time to do this interview I’m so excited to put the hotwifeblog questions to you. Excuse me if I loosen my tie and belt lol.. Tell us where you are from?
Emma: We are originally from California but have lived in Tokyo for well over ten years.
hotwifeblog: What is your age?
Emma: I (Emma) am 37 and Scott is 58. And I remind him everyday that he’s a really lucky dog.
hotwifeblog: What are your measurements?
Emma: I am a pretty busty girl - 34D, with a small waist and curvy hips and butt. I don’t have any idea what my actual measurements are. I usually wear a dress-size 8 in the US.
hotwifeblog: What is your height?
Emma: I am about 5′3″.
hotwifeblog: What colour are your eyes?
Emma: Green Eyes.
hotwifeblog: Hair colour?
Emma: Changes. I am currently thinking about going dark with red streaks. When I mentioned this Scott said, “Anything is cool as long as it looks slutty.”
hotwifeblog: Any piercings or tattoos?
Emma: Scott wins in this department. I have a tongue piercing and clit-hood piercing. Scott has nipple piercings and two genital piercings: a PA and an ampalang I have a small tattoo and, as people will see on our website, Scott is heavily tattooed.
hotwifeblog: Describe your personality?
Emma: I generally seem pretty outgoing to people and can be wild (I exposed my breasts on Hollywood Blvd when I was 22 in celebration of graduating university) but also have a shy side that likes to stay home and read (if Scott is licking my pussy while I do that then all the better).
hotwifeblog: How did you meet your husband?
Emma: We were in a writing workshop together, which interestingly enough was led by the late great Bob Flannagan (Sick: The Life and Death of Bob Flanagan, Supermasochist), whom I was totally infatuated with.
hotwifeblog: How long have you been married?
Emma: Fifteen years - pretty much from the very start.
hotwifeblog: How would you describe your marriage and lifestyle?
Emma: It’s corny but we consider ourselves soul mates. We are extremely close and intimate. If something good happens in my day, the first person I want to tell is Scott. If something bad happens, the first person I want is Scott.
As for our lifestyle, I think we think of it as an adventure that we are on together (even though I often don’t let Scott participate).
hotwifeblog: Do you think you’ve always had natural hotwife tendencies, the need to be with more than one man?
Emma: I’ve always wanted an unconventional sex life. When I was a teenager, I envisioned myself with a partner who enjoyed group sex and didn’t see marriage as the same as fidelity. Once Scott and I got together, we basically decided to try whatever turned us on at a particular time.
hotwifeblog: How did you get into the hotwife lifestyle?
Emma: I would say I am more of a Cuckoldress than a Hotwife. I see the difference as being that I am totally in control of my sex-life (and Scott’s for that matter).
To be honest, the first thoughts of cuckolding came from Scott and I didn’t take to it right away. I felt that he was trying to control my sexuality and I didn’t like that. Also, we had a lot of trouble finding reliable partners at first who were also good lovers. I took a break from outside lovers while I was pregnant and while my daughter was a baby. But then I made the decision to get back involved and really take charge this time around. It’s been a lot more successful and enjoyable.
hotwifeblog: What do you like most about being a hotwife?
Emma: Freedom. I do what and who I want when I want. If I have the hots for someone, I just go for it. I also love sucking big, hard cocks and there just isn’t a big cock in my house. So I love having the chance to suck big cocks.
hotwifeblog: How long have you been an active hotwife?
Emma: About four years.
hotwifeblog: Would you call yourself an exhibitionist?
Emma: Actually, no. I prefer to keep my sex-life kind of private and my body kind of private from the general public (of course that’s aside from flashing my tits on Hollywood Blvd).
But once I decide to fuck a guy, I’ll pretty much do everything with him right from the start.
hotwifeblog: What type of men do you go for?
Emma: Hard-bodies. This is a new thing. Two of my current lovers have tremendous bodies and I can’t get enough. I was licking one lover’s chest and just feeling his body and it made me so unbelievably horny that his body was so muscular.
hotwifeblog: What was your first hotwife experience like?
Emma: Our first experience was with someone who is still one of my lovers. We didn’t realize that we were hot-wifing at the time. It was more of a three-some but once Mr. Big pulled out his cock, it was clear that hubby wasn’t going to get much action. He was pretty dominant to my hubby and we both really got off on the whole experience. It was my first experience with a guy who had a bigger cock than Scott and I liked it. I am not a size-queen but I like nice sized cocks, especially thick ones.
I went through a period with Mr. Big where I always met him on my own even though Scott really wanted to watch. I just loved the way Mr. Big fucked me and wanted to enjoy it for myself.
hotwifeblog: How many lovers have you had since becoming a hotwife?
Emma: More than I had before I was married. I don’t count anymore but don’t want to give the impression that it’s 100s. More like 20 or so.
hotwifeblog: Do you have any bisexual tendencies?
Emma: I have licked pussy a few times and love the female body. I wouldn’t consider myself bisexual but at the moment I am going through a period where I would like to explore with a woman and see what/if I like it.
One of my big fantasies is to be licking a woman’s pussy while she is getting fucked and her partner takes his cock out of her pussy and puts it in my mouth and I can taste all her juices on him. The funny thing about this is that it is also a common cuckold fantasy to be in that position.
hotwifeblog: Have you ever tried a gangbang?
Emma: No, but I have lots of fantasies about this. I am not sure that the reality would be as good as the fantasy. This is one of those areas that I think could go a bit wrong.
hotwifeblog: How many men have you had sex with at one time?
Emma: Two but the second one has always been my husband. I enjoy double-penetration (more than I thought I would) and would like to get comfortable enough with it to do it with two guys while my husband watches. I think I’d like to try three guys but it’s an area that might be great in fantasy but really exhausting in reality.
hotwifeblog: Do you have a preference of black or white lovers?
Emma: No, I have both black and white lovers.
hotwifeblog: What clothes do you like to wear in general and in the bedroom?
On a regular basis, I try to dress sexy but not slutty (much to the dismay of my husband who would love it if I dressed like a slut everyday). As for the bedroom, I’m usually naked well before I get to a bedroom.
hotwifeblog: Do you wear an ankle bracelet?
Emma: Yes, my husband bought me one but it is more of a symbol between us than a sign for guys to see I am a hotwife.
hotwifeblog: What is your favorite sexual act?
Emma: Sucking cock. Sucking cock. Sucking cock. I think I could work in a blowjob bar (they have them here in Asia) and really love it.
hotwifeblog: Any fetishes you are into?
Emma: We explore pretty much ALL fetishes except scat.
hotwifeblog: What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve tried?
Emma: I was talking to some girlfriends the other night (two who know about our sexlife) and said that the most extreme thing that Scott and I had ever done was to share a pre-operative transsexual prostitute in Thailand. Neither of them, however, thought this was that wild. They thought the fact that Scott and I were both branded was more extreme.
hotwifeblog: Do you find most of your lovers and sexual partners through the Internet, clubs or through friends?
Emma: I have an active ad at AdultFriendFinder (mrsekelly), which is where I find most of my partners. I’ve fucked two of our friends (not always the best idea). And I am currently giving regular blowjobs to one of my husband’s friends (this has turned out to be an excellent idea).
hotwifeblog: What role does your husband play in your lifestyle?
Emma: He is an active partner even when he is not there. We are in this together.
hotwifeblog: Does your husband swing as well or remain faithful to you?
Emma: He is totally faithful to me but I have decided that if we go to a swing-club (something we’ve been planning to do) that he’ll have to serve any woman that wants to have sex with him (even if he doesn’t want to).
hotwifeblog: So does your husband really enjoy watching you with other men?
Emma: He loves it but we also enjoy keeping things varied. For example, I have plans to meet a couple and Mr. Big this week but I told him he could only come to one. So he had to decide which experience he wanted to see.
hotwifeblog: Do you enjoy him watching you?
Emma: I like variety. There are some situations where I just want to get fucked and it doesn’t matter to me whether hubby is there or not. But then there are times when the whole experience is better if he is there. This is best when my lover is really into being a bull and teases and humiliates my husband while he’s fucking me. My favorite is when a guy is looking at my husband telling him how great my pussy feels.
hotwifeblog: How often are you sexually active with your husband?
Emma: Varies. A few times a month for actual penetrative sex. But more often for him giving me oral or me fucking him with a dildo.
hotwifeblog: Do you ever compare your husband’s performance to any of the other men you’ve slept with?
Emma: Of course. My husband is a useless fuck compared to my lovers but for some reason I still like to fuck him.
hotwifeblog: So you’re naturally dominant?
Emma: I am very dominant and rarely submissive. I find it amusing when a man wants his partner to be dominant with him and then submissive to her lovers. Some guys really think women are just fictional characters that they can fit into their fantasies. I don’t have a submissive nature and don’t like to be dominated.
I do like guys who are confident and love to fuck hard. I am not at all dominant with my lovers and like a guy who takes control of
sex but not one who wants to push me around or make me do anything.
hotwifeblog: Do you swallow?
Emma: YES, what a silly question.
hotwifeblog: LOL… Have you ever received a creampie from a lover?
Emma: This is an area I am not comfortable with, though it is something Scott is really excited by and would like to do. I would have to be with someone for a long time and have lots of trust in them to do this.
I grew up in the time that HIV/AIDS awareness and education was at its peak. I remember when Magic Johnson announced he had HIV and when Freddie Mercury died. I think this is an area where people really take risks that are unwarranted.
I worked for two doctors who turned out to be in a hotwife lifestyle, which culminated (read: ended in a nasty divorce) in the female partner doing a bareback gangbang in a bar with strangers. To me, this is where you have to draw the line between fantasy and reality.
hotwifeblog: Does your husband like to have sex with you just after you’ve been with someone else?
Emma: This is often the hottest sex we have.
hotwifeblog: What’s your biggest fantasy?
Emma: My biggest fantasy is to be the entertainment at a poker party. There are maybe four guys and they are playing poker. I am naked and have to get them drinks or snacks. When I am not serving them, I am under the table giving them all blowjobs.
After they finish their game, they all fuck me. One in my ass, one in my pussy, one in my mouth, and one watching. They each take turns fucking me in different holes and they each cum in my mouth or face. They leave me on the bed and won’t let me shower or clean myself. After a while one comes in the bedroom and fucks me again. Then, the next guy comes in and fucks me. Until they have all fucked me again.
They keep me naked for the weekend, just coming in and fucking me or doing whatever they want with me for the whole weekend.
hotwifeblog: Tell us about one of your recent hotwife experiences?
Emma: We recently met up with a lover I had before I was pregnant. This is a lover whom Scott particularly likes to watch fuck me. He’s a hard-bodied, ex-military, African-American who is really into fucking white wives.
I had Scott come with me but while we were having a cup of coffee waiting for Don, I told Scott that he couldn’t actually come and watch unless Don wanted him to. I would go meet Don at the train station and then call Scott with the news of whether Don wanted him there or not. Don would decide Scott’s fate. Scott immediately got squirmy and dejected. He whined a little and then asked if he could at least have some money to buy a CD in the music store since he knew he was going to be left out. I gave him some money and left.
I found Don and he immediately started cupping his hand around my ass and kissing me (something he didn’t used to do in public). I told him my plan and asked him what he thought. He thought about it for a minute and then said, “Yeah, let the little guy come.”
Scott said he was plastered against the window of the coffee shop but couldn’t see us in the Tokyo crowds. When I called he didn’t say anything. I said, “You’re in luck.”
“I’ll meet you outside,” he said eagerly and when we met him outside the coffee shop he was grinning like an idiot.
Don and I walked together and Scott walked in front of us apparently unaware that every few seconds Don grabbed my ass or felt up my tits. I love this kind of semi-public naughtiness. I think Scott was so eager to get to the hotel that he missed that the show had already started.
As soon as we were in the elevator, Don and I were making out. I am surprised I managed to stay dressed until we got to the room. Of course, I was sucking on that big cock as soon as I could get it out of its hiding place. I gave Don a nice long blow job, all the time completely unworried about Scott. Whenever I am with Don, I am just consumed with the need to fuck him. I barely even remember that Scott is there.
Don fucked me for a long time but the most memorable moment was probably when Don had Scott come over and suck his cock while he and I kissed and looked down at him. I know it is the moment Scott remembers.
I was really in the mood for cum and asked Don to cum in my mouth. He obliged and I shared it with Scott in a kiss. Afterwards, there was a lot of lying around together and this is when I realized that Don had the most incredible body. I got really horny again and wanted him to fuck me again. But I had tired him out and had to settle for Scott when we got home.
hotwifeblog: What advice would you give to couples thinking of trying out the hotwife and swinging lifestyle?
Emma: I think 9 times out of 10 guys start these kinds of discussions in relationships and can’t seem to get their wives interested. I think one of the reasons is that guys tend to try to shape their partners into the fantasies they are having at a current time. For example, he dreams of her with a black lover so he pushes her toward black men (when she might be attracted to skinny white guys).
I think the two most important things are having a solid relationship first and then really letting the woman take charge. Letting her know that it is truly her body and she can share it with whom she likes, when she likes, IF she likes.
Guys tend to want everything right away and I think girls, even when they are open to things, may take more time to get comfortable. So I would tell guys not to rush or push their partners. Start slow. Talk to them about what movie stars they’d like to have sex with (while or before you are having sex). Tell them you had a dream with them fucking another guy and got really turned on watching her. Start really slow and see how she reacts. She has to be in control of her sexuality otherwise you’ll never really get what you want.
hotwifeblog: What are your plans for the future regarding your lifestyle?
Emma: Probably a lot more of the same. I think Scott would really love it if I found a reliable and nearby lover and decided to cut him off for a while. I feel that cutting him off permanently could lead to problems but if I had a great lover nearby I think I could certainly cut Scott off for a year or more.
A final thing I’d like to add is that Scott and I are regular people. We aren’t sex professionals. We both have full-time jobs and are parents. We have a small daughter at home and Scott has an older daughter in college. One of the things we are trying to do in our blog is talk about real experiences: things that we’ve actually done. Of course, we want it to be sexy but we want it to be truthful as well: showing the ups and the downs of this lifestyle.
I am the mother of a very small child. I am not out every night with boyfriends and I am certainly not bringing them home to my house while my daughter is here. I think one thing I want to be clear about is that you can have a wild sex-life and still be ethical and not lose yourself in fantasy. Fantasy is great but I think there is a big difference between reality and fantasy. And if you really want to explore these things, you have to be aware of that.
That being said, I’ve got a date with one of my favorite guys this Saturday and am really looking forward to it.
hotwifeblog: Oh please tell us all about it Emma, fantastic interview, thanks for your great contribution to this blog.
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