September 14, 2005
As promised, here is the follow up to yesterday’s interview with Janet Mason.
I’m very privileged to be able to bring you an interview with Janet’s husband Steve. It is a great insight into the life of a hotwife’s husband.
Thanks for your time Steve, very kind of you and much appreciated.
And yes, we are all very envious of you, your life and your wife
hotwifeblog: Welcome to hotwife blog Steve. As with Janet yesterday I’ll start with the basics - What is your age?
hotwifeblog: Describe your personality?
Steve: Adventurous, imaginative, somewhat forceful but always respectful and considerate of others. Loyal to a fault, like my wife Janet.
hotwifeblog: How long have you been married?
Steve: Since January of 1990.
hotwifeblog: How would you describe your marriage and lifestyle?
Steve: It’s fantastic. I always feel bad for people who complain about being married and having kids, because I love being a husband and a father. Janet and I are a very close couple and our kids are wonderful. But in addition to our traditional roles as spouses and parents, we’re also able to enjoy an extremely adventurous sexual lifestyle together as well. We’ve been in the hotwife and swinging lifestyle for a little over 10 years now as a couple and it just feels natural for us. It’s never been a case of one of us wanting while the other was reluctant. Janet and I are pretty much on the same page about all the key issues in life, and that not only keeps us happily married but provides a solid ground for some really kinky sex without the usual insecurities and problems of jealousy, etc.
hotwifeblog: What’s it like being married to Janet Mason?
Steve: See my answer to the question above. It’s great - fluff up your pillows and dream about it, guys.
hotwifeblog: Hehe…. Would you call yourself a cuckold, a wife-watcher or a participating swinger with your wife?
Steve: Well, if there’s one thing I’m definitely NOT, it’s a cuckold. I just don’t “get” that scene. I’m far too assertive and exuberant for that kind of stuff. There’s not a single part of my personality that wishes to be humiliated, nor is there any part of Janet’s personality that would even consider humiliating anyone else, either…even if they “wanted” it. Finally, I don’t have a small or even average cock, nor do I have any performance issues in bed - both of which seem to be “required” for the cuckold scene, from what I can gather. Don’t get me wrong, though - it’s fine for others. Whatever blows your skirt up, I suppose. Just because I’m personally not into it doesn’t mean it wrong for the guy standing next to me.
I’d have to say that I’m about 80% wife-watcher and 20% participating swinger. That’s because Janet is so beautiful in my eyes that I can’t stop looking at her… so, to me, watching her fuck is just as intoxicating as actually fucking her myself. Also, I have very high standards in women and most don’t turn me on as much as Janet. Still another reason for the low level of participating is that we’ve found that many couples we’ve met over the years come with one or two problems - the first being that many guys “force” their wives into the lifestyle, and I’m not the type to take advantage of a woman who’s clearly there only to please her husband and does NOT really want to have sex with others. The second being that both partners may not be equally attractive to Janet and I - she may like the guy but I’m not into his wife, or vice-versa. I’m not one of those stereotypical guys who would fuck anyone or anything, anytime, just for the sake of fucking, so I don’t. The woman has to be a babe in my eyes. After all, I’ve always got Janet. So most of the participating I do is during threesomes with other women in our local area who are friends. Even then I like to do a lot of watching and facilitating. And most of my participation is oral - I just can’t get enough of giving oral pleasure to women. There’s not a single part of a woman’s body that I won’t kiss, lick or suck. The female body is just awe-inspiring to me.
hotwifeblog: What do like most about your swinging lifestyle?
Steve: I like the kinkiness of it, but I also enjoy how it’s allowed Janet and I to grow closer over the years. We were already close when we started, but living out our deepest fantasies together over so much time has really taken our communication to an even higher level. We often don’t even need to speak to communicate - just a mutual look is enough. That’s pretty cool. Not many people can say their husband or wife is their best friend, soul mate AND their favorite sex partner.
hotwifeblog: What do you find most sexy about your wife?
Steve: Wow, that’s a tough one. It might sound corny but pretty much EVERYTHING about Janet turns me on. We’ve been married for almost 16 years and dated for 2 years before that, but I swear that, after 18 years together, I still get hard as a rock every time I see her. I love her eyes, her smile, her hair, her laugh, the way she dresses, her petite body, her narrow waist and wide hips, her manicured hands and nails, her tits, the small of her back, her amazing ass, her legs… even the sight of her small, pretty bare feet gets me sprung in a heartbeat. I love the way she is so open about the uncontrollable lust she has for huge cocks and big loads of cum, and that she can look me straight in the eye and tell me her kinkiest fantasies. I could probably go on but that’s enough for now.
hotwifeblog: Are you very sexually active with your wife?
Steve: Yes, very much so. We both have extremely strong sex drives. We tend to have sex at least 3 times a week - and more often when we can. We have three kids and we own two small “real world” businesses, plus we have the two web sites to run, so it’s not always easy, but we are always sure to make time for it. When we get our parents to watch the kids and we take a weekend or business trip, we spend a LOT of that time fucking, sucking and stroking. Janet is like walking, talking Viagra for me - something I’ve never needed in any event.
hotwifeblog: Does Janet ever compare your performance to any of the other men she’s slept with?
Steve: If you mean in a negative way, no, never. Anyone who knows Janet knows that she’s not the kind of woman to do that. Besides, I’m always present when we meet with others, and it’s really rather obvious to anyone with open eyes and ears just how good (or bad) of a lover someone else is without having to be told. Her facial expressions, verbalizations and number/intensity of orgasms (or the lack thereof) tell the whole story, no matter if it’s me or someone else.
hotwifeblog: What’s it like to see Janet with another man?
Steve: It’s incredibly exciting, every time, even after all these years. Bear in mind that I’ve been in this lifestyle since I was just 19 years old…I started off as the “extra guy” for a married couple where the wife was into young guys.. Once I got over my fear of fucking another man’s wife in front of him, I loved it. In no time I was meeting with other couples and soon started getting my own girlfriends into it. The first time I ever “watched” I was 20 years old and was genuinely surprised to find that not only was I not jealous seeing some other guy fuck my girlfriend but that I was hard as a rock, and it made me want to fuck her even more myself. Ever since that day I was into it. I have to admit that I was a little worried when it came to Janet, because we were “older”, more serious, married and obviously much closer than a young boyfriend/girlfriend thing would ever be and therefore had more to lose if things went badly, but it worked out great and we’ve never looked back once since then.
hotwifeblog: What’s the most exciting thing your wife has done sexually?
Steve: That’s a tough one. I’d have to say it’s a tie between three things:
1) The first time she was ever with a REALLY well-hung black guy (and I mean huge)
2) The one and only time she’d had a bukkake party before, where 10 guys shot 15 loads all over her face as she jacked and sucked them off while I filmed it for posterity, and
3) The first time we had anal sex. Janet’s ass is shaped like a heart and is as tight as a vice, and even her asshole itself is a wonder to behold. It was, hands-down, by far the best and most intense anal sex I’ve ever had - and I’ve had my share of it. It felt like I shot a quart of cum up her ass that night.
hotwifeblog: What type of women are you attracted to?
Steve: Women like Janet - very feminine and pretty in a classic way, but with killer bodies built for sin, who are kinky and lusty but never in a trashy, loud or obnoxious way. I’m also into classy, elegant older women, too. Eyes, hair, and makeup are key points, as are nice hands and feet. A great laugh always gets me, too.
hotwifeblog: Have you and Janet ever played with another hotwife without her husband participating?
Steve: No, that’s just not our style. We’re not the deceptive type and we take marriage very seriously - both for ourselves as well as others. Doing so allows us to get as kinky as we want without hurting either each other or anyone else in the process. If the spouse isn’t there, we’re not there, period.
hotwifeblog: Do you prefer giving or receiving oral sex?
Steve: Both, but mainly giving. I love going down on women, rimming their asses, sucking toes and fingers, nibbling necks and armpits, and especially lots of kissing.
hotwifeblog: What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve tried?
Steve: I wouldn’t know where to start on that one. I’ve pretty much lived out every fantasy that I or most guys could ever have. I lost my virginity in high school to a woman in her late 30’s and fucked her for two years straight, picking up every trick in the book about pleasuring women. I’ve had numerous FMF threesomes. I had more anal sex with women with amazing asses by the age of 25 than most guys get in lifetime. I’ve both watched and participated in gangbangs for 3 girlfriends and, later, my wife. I’ve had sex with just about every major ethnicity/race of woman there is. I’ve shared my wife with black men with cocks so huge they don’t look real, watched her take every inch, love every minute of it and beg for more. I’ve watched her seduce college-age guys that were clearly hot for her while I pretended not to know what was going on. Really, I’ve just been very lucky to have been introduced to the lifestyle at such a young age and to end up married to a woman who shares my enjoyment of it equally. What more could a guy ask for? I almost feel guilty when I hear my friends occasionally complain about their own sex lives, because mine has always been great.
hotwifeblog: Would you call yourself an exhibitionist?
Steve: Actually, no, not at all. I might sound a bit “cocky” in writing, but that’s just a confidence that comes from actual experience. In real life I’m not the kind of guy to strut like a peacock at all. I’m actually fairly modest about my body even though I work very hard at staying in shape and have a larger-than-average cock. I know who I am and I’m comfortable with it - I don’t like to be flashy about anything.
hotwifeblog: Are you dominant or submissive at all?
Steve: It depends on my mood, the woman in question and the situation. I don’t have just “one side” to my sexual personality.
hotwifeblog: Does your wife take a Femdom role over you?
Steve: Only in a mild way, and only when she knows I’m in that mood and she is, too. Nothing extreme, nothing humiliating or painful, and it’s always involved with hand-jobs or foot fetishism. I have a thing for women with very pretty, small and well-tended feet, and Janet has all that in spades. I also love being jacked off by women with pretty, well-tended hands and not only does she have that, too, but she gives the BEST hand-jobs I’ve ever had… and I’ve had a ton of them from a lot of women.
hotwifeblog: What clothes do you like to see Janet wear?
Steve: Anything or nothing at all.
hotwifeblog: Any fetishes you’re into?
Steve: As I mentioned above, I have a thing for women with very pretty, small and well-tended feet (unlike hardcore foot fetishists, I am NOT into just “any” feet”) and I also have a thing for pretty, well-tended hands and I loved being jacked off by them. Finally, I have a SERIOUS thing for going down on a women, especially rimming a nice ass. I could do that all night - just ask Janet!
hotwifeblog: Do you help find Janet’s partners for her website?
Steve: Yes, always. There are FAR too many dorks out there deliberately trying to waste the time of webmistresses, so we have no choice in that matter.
hotwifeblog: There’s a lot of interest in creampies in the hotwife lifestyle. Do they turn you on?
Steve: Yes, immensely. In fact we do not use condoms at all, ever. (See Janet’s interview for more on this - I won’t repeat it here.)
hotwifeblog: Ever been tempted to clean one of Janet’s creampies?
Steve: God no. The thought of that makes me sick.
hotwifeblog: What’s your view on husbands that are submissive cuckolds and do the whole creampie eating thing?
Steve: Whatever floats your boat, my friend. I’m not here to judge. I’m just not into it myself, and that’s that.
hotwifeblog: What advice would you give to couples thinking of trying out the swinging lifestyle?
Steve: Basically the same advice that Janet gave in her interview. Be VERY patient. Don’t ever lower your standards. If you think so guy or couple is fake, chances are great that they are. Don’t accept games from others and don’t play them in return. Don’t lie about or otherwise exaggerate your age, height, weight, cock size or anything else - all common problems. Don’t ask for photos but refuse to send them in return. Don’t send old photos, ever - nobody cares about how you looked 10 years, 20 pounds and a full head of hair ago. If you’re insecure about your relationship or your body or your cock, etc. then you’d do best NOT to get into the lifestyle, unless you’re idea of a really great time is to feel even more insecure and ruin your marriage. Make sure you do NOT push your wife (or husband) into this if they resist - if you do, you’re almost certainly headed for disaster and/or divorce. We know - we’ve seen it happen, over and over again. Make it all about your partners sexual/sensual pleasure and not so much yours - ideally, she or he will do the same in return for you, and then it’s a beautiful thing. Understand that you’re always walking a fine line in this lifestyle - face reality and know the risks so that you have no illusions. Know that EVERYONE is nervous their first time, just as they are for the “first time” in regular sex or dating or marriage or any of a multitude of other things in life - but that nervousness WILL pass, and then you can get on with enjoying it. Finally, understand that no one else can “help” you get your spouse into the idea - we all have to do our own homework, and no one else knows your partner like you do.
hotwifeblog: What input do you have on janet-exposed.com?
Steve: As the webmaster, quite a lot. Janet and I make all decisions together and we split the work 50/50. It isn’t “her” site and it’s not “mine”, either. Just like everything else with us, we’re a team.
hotwifeblog: What are your plans for the future regarding the website?
Steve: To keep it running as long as we enjoy the lifestyle and are able to do so. We went online in April of 1998, and have seen a lot of sites come and go in that time. We’re in it for the long haul.
hotwifeblog: What are your plans for the future regarding your swinging lifestyle?
Steve: Merely to keep enjoying it - what else could I ask for? You’ve got to stay loose enough to roll with whatever comes down the pike. Guys who try to “plan” each and every step of this lifestyle tend to needlessly frustrate both themselves and their partners - and I just don’t have time for that. Life’s too short!
Thanks again Steve for your honest and comprehensive answers
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