August 16, 2005
Partner Finding Madness
Husbands that want their wives to stray. Wives that want to have fun but feel trapped in their relationship. Couples that are willing but too nervous to make the first steps. Couples that finally make an arrangement only for the 3rd party to let them down at the last minute. Single guys that are just plain frustrated because they can’t seem to hook up with a couple. Single guys and girls that want to find that perfect partner but do they exist?
It seems the hotwife and swinging lifestyle is a minefield of complications and disappointments.
How many times have you contacted someone about a possible encounter just for it to go wrong the day you’re meant to meet, someone gets cold feet, maybe the bull is really married and is just corresponding to fulfil some sexual fantasy. Maybe the wife you’ve contacted is fantazising and has no real intentions of going through with anything. There are no easy answers of how to overcome the difficulties but I would say that when you find that gem of a play partner hold on to them and treat them good like there’s no tomorrow cause who knows when the next shining jewel will come onto the scene.
I think conventional relationships in general are like this and share the same difficulties. Think of all the people in the world. Outside, somewhere, there is a perfect match for you in every way. Someone who’ll love everything about you, someone who’ll share the same fantasies, interests and views on life, someone who you could easily live the rest of your days with. Now think of how many people in the world you actually come across in any one day. Then think of what percentage of them would go down any kind of relationship path with you and the time that takes to develop.
The odds are going down and down. You can see that you’re only exposing yourself to one grain of sand in a full desert of possibilities. No wonder so many relationships break down and marriages end in divorce as singles become so desperate to be in a relationship they are eventually forced to choose someone that isn’t quite right. They paper over the obvious differences, put aside the reservations they may have and jump straight into it. I’ve seen it happen to so many friends and family members alike.
But with an alternative lifestyle it becomes even harder as you’re not only trying to match up 2 people, but 3, 4 or more individuals to have some sort of connection for some sort of relationship to work in the long term. No-strings anonymous sex seems the only way to cheat the rules.
And is it just me or have you noticed that people seem less interested in being friendly and giving any sort of warmth to a stranger. I hardly ever seem to get a smile or flirtatious look from a woman when I’m out and about nowadays. Faces tend to look straight ahead, stern and cold. (maybe I’m just getting old, hehe)
We’re given the urge and desire by nature to find a mate and procreate, but then our society in turn makes that task so difficult with it’s strange rules and the modern psyche of men and women, in addition to the fact we’re all made to be so busy, whoring our precious time away for peanuts just to get by we find that life just slips by.
We humans are a strange breed.
August 17th, 2005 at 4:06 pm
That was a very beautiful post.
Quite insightful. Have a great day.
*smooch*
August 18th, 2005 at 6:15 am
Might I suggest that part of the problem is in what people are searching for? I have been in cuckold relationships for almost 7 years. It has been a joy and wonderful in so many ways. However, I am very selective and screen my lovers with care. A guy who is looking for a one nighter, no thanks. I dont care how good looking, well built and well endowed he may be (or think he is). I look for quality and not quantity. If people are only looking for surface beauty, they will almost assuredly be disappointed.
That reminds me of meat markets (bars, gyms etc). Shallow girls hooked on finding a “real” guy but are only concerned with his looks and bank account being hit on by shallow guys with no desire to be honest or for any form of commitment (even short term) and are only concerned with looks and big tits. They are all disappointed and bitter and deserve each other.
There is a difference between being alone and lonely. I was alone for quite some time before meeting my husband but was not lonely. I prefered to be at peace with myself and enjoy my hobbies, family and friends than in a tumultuous relationship, I was and just held out with the hope that one fine day the right one would come along, and he did.
Dont give up. Finding the right one is worth the hassle, the searching and the wait.