Comments on: My Wife Won’t Cheat

by: same boat

Sun, 17 Jul 2005 02:25:34 -0400

Your story reads like I wrote it. I am at a loss to explain it too. Sexually promiscuous she was before I came along, then straight and conservative after we hooked up. Go figure.

I am in utter frustration daily, my friend in arms.

by: Ms Maccomb

Sun, 17 Jul 2005 06:40:14 -0400

Hey John,
With all due respect, from what you wrote it seems like this is YOUR thing. While she may have stated a couple times a desire to be with other men, things do change. Its not always easy when one has certain hopes and expectations but the reality is its going to happen and its her life and choice.
From many people I talk to what often happens is one side tries so hard to convince the other side that it becomes pressure, a burden and just to much. Anyhow, I know thats not what you asked but my point is she changed her opinion once, she may do so again. No one stays the same as the years go by.
In my own opinion, I’m sure that they are many people that have affairs due to feeling lonely, miserable of incomplete. Most of the time its the regular “cheating” variety, but in some cases no doubt its in the cuckolding or hotwife variety as well. 50+% of all marriages end in divorce with infidelity being a major contributing factor. But I do think that with many cuckolding couples, the openness, the honesty, the sharing of true desires, emotions, physical relationships gives them a greater chance of staying together than the other way around. Almost all the cuckoldress’s I know and have spoken to think its great and see it as a bonus, not a detriment or a replacement for something they may be missing.
Anyhow, thats just one ladies opinion but I do hope your situation works out for the best of both of you.

by: Trash

Sun, 17 Jul 2005 07:55:48 -0400

Thanks for your submission John. An interesting situation, I think you should completely change your whole thinking method around this one. Your wife knows what you want,so take the hard stance away and leave it at that for now. I think by making the connection between her adulterous days and now is wrong. She wants to forget her past and you bringing them up all the time is making the situation worse.
As you said she was unhappy then, so now you need to move on and if it happens again it will be for the right reasons and part of that reason will be that’s she’s left the unhappy woman completely behind. Make things more fun, maybe bring some related roleplay fantasies into your bedroom, let nature take it’s course and maybe with the pressure factor eradicated she may feel less intimidated and more confident to alter her current thought pattern. Please don’t take offence but my comments, they are just my immediate thoughts.

Ms Maccomb, as usual a brilliant observation. Thanks.

by: dunlewy

Mon, 25 Jul 2005 21:56:48 -0400

By all means bring on the role play. You can also try dinner with her and a friend who then takes his leave, but shows up at the hotel room at a pre arranged, later time when she’s getting real heated up.I did this for a couple I now see several times a year, and it worked great.