April 2, 2005
Adultery? Why Not?
Because it feels uncomfortable to most. It’s not what we’ve been brought up to do. An adulterer’s initial excitement and relief can be quickly replaced by guilt, shame and fear of discovery. But imagine a world where you could have a happy ‘life’ partner but were also able to taste the fruits of other trees too. It would certainly cut the divorce and separation rate, adultery is blamed for more than a quarter of all divorces.
But of course it is a pipe dream thinking that we can all suddenly start living a hotwife adulterous lifestyle. Who makes it hard? most of the people who hold us back in so many of our ways of life. The people who force their puritanical, brainwashing attitudes upon us all, towards sex, sexuality, pornography, prostitution etc. ‘We live this way, think this way, so should you!’. If you try and fight these people with views that differ you can be exposed as a deviant, freak, slut, victim or general misfit of society. Even when some people agree with your views against society they would generally never have the courage to support you for fear of a similar label - better to be quiet and go along with the rest of them…
We live in a society where we are conditioned to believe that committing yourself to one partner is the norm and the correct thing to do. Marriage is correct and adultery is wrong, simple as that. A great number of men would never be able to let their wives be unfaithful, society conditioning mixed with jealousy and a lack of self confidence steer them to the moral majority. Women, the same, most grow up with the popular indoctrinated romantic idea of a monogamous relationship with a man who will stand by their side. True love can only be shared with two people. But when humans are tied by these constraints things usually go wrong. Nearly half don’t make this ‘ideal’ relationship last because in reality life is very different.
There are not many mammals that are tied such strict relationship rules. Studies have shown over 96% of all mammals are non-monogamous. Other studies show 40% of married men and 30% of married women have extramarital sex. So why put yourself through the heartache of trying to live by rules that on the whole just don’t work? Why do we torture ourselves by trying to live in a way that our genetic makeup can’t handle. Humans can be strange sometimes. In 1000 years time historians will be laughing at our strange habits and rules of life we restrict ourselves with.
